Showing posts with label Reframe Our Perspective. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Reframe Our Perspective. Show all posts

Monday, September 3, 2018

Everyone Wants to Be Happy

Another holiday weekend alone. I know it's hard.
If it weren't difficult, you wouldn't be surfing the net, nor reading this blog.
So maybe, just maybe, there's a point to it. I've learned that God uses the needs we have--perhaps even allows us to have these needs--so that we will get uncomfortable enough that we get willing to move.
Move where?
How about the place where those needs will be met?
I don't think I have to spell it out for you.
View the video, visit the website...

This particular article from tells about a 24-year-old widow who, after days of imprisonment, opened her mouth to scream--but out came a song instead.
"That night the police chief came down and said he was taking her home on one condition: "You must come to my house in three days.' Then he said,
'I don’t understand. You are not afraid of anything. My wife and daughters and all the women in my family are afraid of everything. But you are not afraid of anything. . . . I want you to come to my house so you can tell everyone why you are not afraid. And I want you to sing that song.'"
When the pressure is on, happiness extinct, the future hopeless...and you're ready to scream, what will come out of your mouth? What sound do you want to make?

Today could be your turning point for living the rest of your life. Visit the website, particularly the link to the article. Pick one of the fifteen challenges for women---if you do I'd love to hear from you on Labor Day next year. It won't be the same as today.

God's saints have been imprisoned through out the ages. Whether it's a prison with iron bars and chains, or the physical confinements of a broken down body, or a deep pit of despair--God knows, He stands with you, and he holds the ways to turn this to good right in his hand. Genesis 50:20.
💗 ferree

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Thursday, September 5, 2013

Beauty Is Everywhere Challenge

Have you taken the "Beauty Is Everywhere Challenge? No, of course not. My Lifeboat friend Erin and her sister made it up! They've been Facebooking this challenge with each other to encourage Erin and it's been surprising to see some real blessing show up. For example, check out the YoYo...
Photo: Beauty is everywhere challenge. Something on my car broke and this nice stranger helped me temporarily "fix" it. Our temporary "fix" involved buying a yoyo at a gas station and using the string to tie it back together. Talk about good critical thinking skills!
"Something on my car broke and this nice stranger helped me temporarily "fix" it. Our temporary "fix" involved buying a yoyo at a gas station and using the string to tie it back together. Talk about good critical thinking skills!"--Erin
But beauty in widowhood? Here are the beautiful things she's learned:

12 things I've learned in the past 4 months:
By Erin Patz 9/4/13

12. Be bold, be brave, be strong. "Be bold enough to use your voice, brave enough to listen to your heart, and strong enough to live the life you've always imagined." ... author unknown

11. Everyone has a different grieving process. Grieve how you want to grieve. Don't change your grieving process based on other's opinions or books.

10. Be happy when you're happy and be sad when you're sad. Cry if you feel like crying and don't be afraid to tell someone if you're sad. Dance, laugh, and enjoy life during your happy moments. Don't force your emotions. Find people to be happy with you and find people to cry with you.

9. Beauty is everywhere, even during the darkest days. It may be difficult to see on certain days, but there really is beauty everywhere.

8. Family is important. Hold them close, enjoy your time with them, create new memories, laugh a lot, hug them, take plenty of pictures, say I love you and mean it.

7. Sometimes people don't know what to say in difficult situations. Sometimes people will say silly and stupid things thinking they are comforting words. Just laugh, let it go, and realize they are trying.

6. Enjoy the adventure that God has you on. Be excited for what He has in store for you! Have hope and be joyful. Your journey is uniquely yours.

5. People will offer you their advice, whether you ask for it or not. People will think they know what is best for you, but really only you know what is best for you. People will also pass judgment, whether they know the storm that you're walking through or not. The only thing that matters is that you're listening to God and letting Him lead your decisions.

4. Keep things in perspective. It could always be better, but it could also be a lot worse. Be grateful for your life and what/who you've been given.

3. There are real and genuine people in this world. There are people that truly care. You want these kinds of people as friends. Hang on to them.

2. Taking steps of faith is important, even if they are uncomfortable steps and you can't see the path you're following. Just have faith and trust that He's looking out for you.

1. God is bigger than your problems, your failures, your pain, your trials, your suffering, or your circumstances. He's working things out in the background, even when you can't see the good in the situation. It will all work out, one way or another, and everything will be okay.

Aren't these great insights? Beauty is everywhere if we watch for it....  I'll bet the Lord has brought some beauty everywhere to you too. Please tell about it in the comment box today. Erin and I would love to hear from you, ferree

Thursday, July 25, 2013

Bring Widows to a Fresh Grounded Faith Conference

While these conferences are not about widows, they are about women and faith and God. We all need that! What could be better than attending it with a group of widows?

Fresh Grounded Faith conferences will be in the following cities this fall, and if you gather a group of 10, your ticket is free! Check out their website for more info.

Email me when you sign up, and if I know of other widows going too, with their permission I'll share contact info so you can meet!

Montgomery, AL – September 27-28
Featuring Jennifer Rothschild, with Special Guests: Stormie Omartian & Meredith Andrews
When: Fri September 27 7:00 PMSat September 28 12:30 PM
South Bend, IN – Oct 12
Featuring Jennifer Rothschild with Special Guests Stormie Omartian and Meredith Andrews
When: Sat October 12 9:00 AM 3:30 PM
Evansville, IN – November 1-2

Featuring Jennifer Rothschild and Special Guests: Patsy Clairmont and Meredith Andrews.
When: Fri November 1 7:00 PMSat November 2 12:30 PM

Springfield, MO – November 8-9

Featuring Jennifer Rothschild and Special Guests: TBA
When: Fri November 8 7:00 PMSat November 9 12:30 PM
Click here for more info:

Plan ahead so we can make this happen! And if you're able to join me at Beauty Boot Camp in Pigeon Forge, TN, August 23-25, please let me know!

Thursday, July 11, 2013

What's Your Favorite Color?

When you look in your closet do you see pinks, blues, greens or reds that reveal your preferences? Or do you ever notice that an ocean blue helps you slow down and feel more serene while a hot pepper red raises your adrenalin?

Color has a tremendous influence on our moods and energy! Colors can also enhance the way we look--bringing out natural beauty or making us look ill and pathetic. When we're grieving we sure don't need an easy-to-change thing like the color of our shirt bringing us down, do we?

If you are interested in how to bring out the beauty of the looks God gave you, take a free color analysis at: Color E-nalysis (click the underline) (Those who receive this post by email should click on the title line to get to the website link).

I've been searching for "my colors" for years! After taking every color analysis I could find, let me tell you Color E-nalysis is THE BEST!

Other systems offer only 2 - 4 color groups. They help determine if you go with "warm" or "cool" colors, which is essential to know. However, if you're like me you never really fit into such a limited spectrum. But--good news! The Color E-nalysis offers 6 categories and provided me with crucial tips and general guidelines in only a few minutes. While you may order their color swatches for $19.95, the analysis itself is a great foundation and it's absolutely free!

Shari Braendel is the consultant on the color analysis site. I've been following her website for a few years, and I'll finally meet her in person in August at Beauty Boot Camp! This is open to widows too, and if you can go it'd be so great for us to meet! Check out Shari's home page, Fashion Meets Faith to see the cool conferences she puts on. Watch all the videos as they are really fun and you'll learn a lot just from these little clips. To register for Boot Camp (and no, you don't have to do push ups!-- I asked!) click this link or just look for Beauty Boot Camp on the Fashion Meets Faith website.

Let me know if you have any questions by emailing me at [email protected] I'd love for a group of widows to join me! It would be a well-deserved girls weekend, plus a great help in cutting through widow brain fog and re-discovering yourself. I hope you can come!

Thursday, June 27, 2013

You Still Matter

The speaker in this video talks about how two words can change lives: You matter.

Those words are especially important to widows. How can we matter, how do we feel significant when the one person we were most significant to is gone?

Although this video isn't for widows, there's a lot of life-affirming perspective to glean.

TEDxDesMoines - Angela Maiers - You Matter

Are you ready to start carrying a notebook around? Doing so will open our eyes to God at work all around us, and we will be amazed. In lieu of a notebook right now, why not just type in a comment of what you've noticed today?

Your comments are important to me, they always have been. You matter to me, and you've always mattered to God.

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Widowhood: A Time of Hope

Widowhood is ...

... a time when your heart is opened and exposed. "This is going to hurt a little," says the Great Physician.

... a time when your deepest longings are awakened. "I'm here. Turn your eyes upon me," says the Lover of your soul.

... a time when you're torn away from all that is familiar and comfortable. "This is a new chapter in your life," says the Author. "Every story has a beginning, middle and end. This is not the end."

... a time of wandering and drifting; untethered, and without purpose. "Follow me," says the Good Shepherd. "For your enemy prowls about like a roaring lion, seeking to devour."

... a time of shock and numbness that affects your every dimension. Sometimes you feel nothing physically, emotionally, and even spiritually. Absolutely. Nothing. And then it all rushes back in like a tsunami. "You can't see Me in this storm and darkness," says your Heavenly Father. "But I see you. I will not lose you. I will never leave you nor forsake you."

John 16:33; Mark 5:34; Jeremiah 31:3; Hebrews 12:2; Mark 1:17; John 10:14; I Peter 5:8; Hebrews 13:5,6

Thursday, May 30, 2013

Grief Resources for Widowed Parents

With summer upon us, have you considered finding a "grief camp" for your children to attend?
Often, your local hospice will sponsor such a thing. Exclusively Christian grief camps for kids are rare, so prayerfully consider what's available in your community. Children might not seem like they need any help---yet. But if you can help equip them now for later on when they're ready to deal with it, you'll be a step ahead.

Grief Camps:

Camp Erin by the Moyer Foundation.

Comfort Zone Camp camps are in California, Massachusetts, New Jersey, Virginia
Other resources for grieving children:

National Alliance for Grieving Children Many articles about grieving children, and a map you can click on for help your area.

New York Life Foundation This website link goes directly to the children's page, but has lots of other help too

Hello Grief  I've set up this link to the Hello Grief page of state-by-state resources. Find your state, click on it to discover the available programs.

Olivia's House in York, PA mentioned in Renee's comment below

NEWS FLASH! There are some Christian grief camps!
Blogger friend Candy at Reflections From My Porch Swing sent me links to these Christian grief camps. Thank you Candy!

Sad Child - Portrait by George Hodan

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Thursday, May 16, 2013

Stepping Away

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Photo by Fir0002/Flagstaffotos, Wikipedia file.
I've been busy as a bee this spring ----that blessed, ignorant sort of busy-ness that distracted me from reality---and I liked it! Well, kind least it was familiar. It was better than the vague sense of displacement I've had since we moved--- undone, unfinished, unpacked! The uneasy feeling that I don't really belong here was becoming very usual. It was my ill-fitting "new normal." I was pretending. Being busy helped cover up my unhappiness and loneliness.

But this past weekend I had to travel back to Ohio, and the Lord brought me face to face with the reality that I'd been trying to avoid---I don't live there anymore! Memories I had to let go of overwhelmed me and I got pretty emotional a couple of times. But slowly, as I released them, my empty places began to fill with some hope and resolve to begin making a new home.

It reminded me of many days of widowhood. Back then, I didn't like my situation either. I felt displaced. I felt numb. Life spun past like a surreal merry-go-round out of control. And it hurt! It hurt a whole lot more than moving to a different state.

Moving and widowhood are entirely different except for two things:
1) I didn't choose either one
2) Stepping away helped me come to grips with them both

The point is this---what it is about getting away that can help change perspective? Is it the change of routine? Getting some much needed rest? Being refreshed by interacting with different people?

Have you had a similar experience? Were you were surprised by the change that came over you after stepping away from your familiar surroundings? Would you care to share it? I'd love to hear from you! Please click the post a comment line below. I think this will be an intriguing round...


Thursday, May 2, 2013

Refresh & Reframe Your Perspective on Widowhood

Boost your spirit, refresh your body, and reframe your perspective by treating yourself with a weekend away at a Christian conference for widows!

I mentioned two conferences a few weeks ago, and I've heard that among the many attendees, at least one of them will be one of you! YAY! Rebecca and her children are going to Schroon Lake, NY, and Wanda is going to Gatlinburg TN!

Please let me know if you plan to attend either of these conferences. Wouldn't it be great to meet someone else who is also connected to WCP (WidowsChristianPlace)?

There's still time to register, so here's the basic info and the links.
I hope you'll choose to attend one of these!
Word of Life is very familiar and special to me, as I mention in my book Postcards from the Widows Path; I also worked there one summer during college. And I attended a widows conference with Anna's Gate in 2010 and really appreciate their ministry too.

May 10-12
Single Moms & Kids Conference
Word of Life Inn (evangelical, fundamental, but all are welcome)
Schroon Lake, NY
Click here for more information
call 518-494-6000 to register

May 16-19
Stepping It Up for Widows, Singles & Leaders
Anna's Gate (charismatic, but all are welcome)
Gatlinburg, TN
Click here for more information and registration

Feel free to email me at [email protected] if you have any questions.

Thursday, April 18, 2013

31 Days of WHATTTT????

31 Days of Praise, by Ruth Myers
I know, "Praise?" Why would we praise God while mourning? Let me assure you Ruth Myers knows what she's praising about: she was widowed, too. These praise prayers are gentle, sacrificial expressions of worship for times when we have no words.
Her first husband suffered intensely from cancer and died at age 32, leaving her with two young children to raise. It wasn't until eight years later she married Warren. They've been missionaries and in ministry with Navigators ever since. I think you'll love the honesty and freshness of their praise!

31 Days . . . helps cultivate grateful hearts and a lifestyle of praise. Divided into a couple sections, the book instructs in how to praise God, plus why to, and provides foundational truth about a person's relationship with God.
But the best part is the section marked Day1 - Day 31. Each day provides 2 - 3 paragraphs of praise that you can read aloud or silently as your own prayer to God--good stuff when grief clouds your mind and it's too hard to pray. 31 Days . . . gives you the words to pray when the pain is so deep you have no words.

God understands, He feels our pain, yet He is good; His loving kindness covers us everyday and He is worthy of our praise even from the depths of dark pain.

Thursday, April 11, 2013

Psalm 91:4 - Nature's Way for Widows

He will cover you with his feathers,
and under his wings you will find refuge;
his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.
Psalm 91:4 (NIV)
May the Lord repay you for what you have done. May you be richly rewarded by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge.
Ruth 2:12 (NIV)
Let's look at life's problems from our position of safety under the wings of the Lord today. ferree

Thursday, April 4, 2013

The Mom Song

No wonder we're tired! Here's an honest look at motherhood that will give you a grin and a "Wow!"
Widowhood is very stressful, and so is motherhood. Somehow we survive both while wearing many hats between the two. Let's lend a hand to a widowed mom today, even if we're a widow too. We need each other, don't you agree? Now fasten your seatbelt and hit the "Play" button!


Thursday, March 28, 2013

A New Perspective---nothing is wasted

My Lifeboat friend Lucy --- this happened to her, and I think you'll be amazed and touched by it too.

I talked with my sister today while at the grocery store about all the losses I've had in the last 4 years; my health due to cancer, my house, my husband, my mom, my job, my identity. I was saying that I went back to school to teach and now I'm not doing that with all the stress put upon me with my weakened state. And she says that God is going to use all these trials for something; it's not all for nothing. I get in the car and turn on the Christian music station and this song comes on: Nothing Is Wasted. God speaks so clearly. 

Thursday, March 21, 2013

Pennies From Heaven

Little things can mean a lot in sorrow. For me, those crazy dandelions courageously kept returning every spring and made me smile. Other widows have told me about finding pennies at just the right moment. I'm sure we'd all love to hear about the signs of God at work in your life too so please add a comment today.

Here's a version of this little poem reminding us that we're not alone.
Let's keep our eyes open for pennies today.

Pennies From Heaven
(Author unknown)

I found a penny today
Just laying on the ground.
But it's not just a penny,
this little coin I've found.

Found pennies come from heaven,
That's what my Grandpa told me.
He said Angels toss them down.
Oh, how I loved that story.

He said when an Angel misses you,
They toss a penny down.
Sometimes just to cheer you up,
To make a smile out of your frown.

So, don't pass by that penny,
When you're feeling blue. It may be a penny from heaven,
that an Angel's tossed to you.

Thursday, March 14, 2013

Prayer--Why Bother?

Do you ever wonder what’s the point of prayer? Especially when prayers for your husband seemed to bounce off an invisible ceiling, unheard and unanswered? Perhaps you've shook your fist at God---why should you bother to pray when He's already determined what will take place?

A pastor who's first wife died of cancer shared this with me:

Like you, I used to struggle with that conundrum…that is, until I came to a very important realization…namely, my prayers are part of God’s eternal plan.

The truth is that part of God’s working out His will encompasses my prayer. This doesn’t work out all the logical kinks, but it does help me understand where in God’s plan my prayers fit.

God designed the blueprint for the ages and an essential part of that “blueprint” is yours and mine prayer life. That is why prayer is so essential to us. Here's a quote from Oswald Chambers' My Utmost for His Highest that shows why we must continue to pray even when we don't understand:

“Prayer is the battle, and it makes no difference where you are. However God may engineer your circumstances, your duty is to pray. Never allow yourself this thought, “I am of no use where I am,” because you certainly cannot be used where you have not yet been placed. Wherever God has placed you and whatever your circumstances, you should pray, continually offering up prayers to Him.”

Chambers also said, “prayer is the working of a miracle” in me. I have no idea why God put me in the loop, but He did. And He put you in the loop too.

I'll be the first to admit I find it hard to pray. My mind finds many excuses to distract me and rabbit holes to explore instead. But when I do pray? Things happen. Not as I expect, not on my time---but far better than what I asked because prayer helps me see things from God's perspective. That's what I call re-framing my perspective. It's "the working of a miracle in me."

Do you find the working of a miracle in you too?

Thursday, March 7, 2013

Seeing Plans from God's Point of View

My friend Dodi is learning how to re-frame her perspective by realizing God's truth about the plans that we make for our lives. She recently shared this with me, and granted permission for me to pass it along here today.

Thank you, Ferree, for sharing about making our plans and then they suddenly get interrupted, no questions asked. (see Monday, Feb. 18). Our minds, our spirits, our bodies go into total shock, having not enough sense to put one foot in front of the other.

I recently saw on a billboard sign on the interstate with this reading:

"Tell me your plans for
today and I will just smile"
Signed God.

If there is one thing God is teaching me. . . . it's this . . . to the child of God there are no accidents and when we make plans--- no matter how careful or how prayerful, how large or how simple--- our Father can and does rearrange them and he doesn't even ask our permission. (bummer)

God re-arranges and exchanges our plans for his .. . for he says

"I know the PLANS I have for you"

{his plans mess up my personal agenda}

 Dr. Adrian Rogers died suddenly of cancer and his widow Joyce has written a book, Grace For The Widow. One of my favorite quotes of hers is this: "when you don't know what to do, just do the next thing."

And another Christian lady said this:

"when you don't know what to do, just do what you do know what to do"
I just recently read this poem online, and it ministered to me so much.

"I know the PLANS I have for you
of glorious things to come~
Come abide in my presence and enjoy each and every one.

I offer blessings of comfort, blessings of love,
Blessings of friendshp so very true
I have some PLANS of wonderful things, that I have reserved & Planned just for you.

I hear your prayers, I see your tears
and share in your broken dreams and shattered heart,
Always remember that I am your creator
we are never far apart.

My CHILD my plan for you is: for your faith to grow in me each and everyday
and when you cannot see... just trust in me to lead your way.

Trust in me, my child, with all your heart and try not to always understand,
For I your Heavenly Father who is all knowing & wise has a will for you and a Divine PLAN.
In his heart the mind of man makes his plans, but it is God who directs and determines his steps.____ Proverbs 16:9
we plan but God directs.

God Bless
dodi - SC

Thursday, February 21, 2013

I Wanted Anesthesia Not Abundance!

I few months after my husband died I remember telling a friend on the phone, "I know Jesus said he came to give us life --and not just life, ABUNDANT life. Well, I've had that abundance in many ways, but now it's abundant in PAIN and I don't want it! I don't want an abundant life, I want an anesthetized life!"

Sometimes I'm shocked at my own stupidity. I was choosing numb over normal, my wants over the wonders that God had in store for me.
I was not thinking Biblically, as a paraphrase of I Peter 4:1 illustrates:
"Since Jesus went through everything you're going through and more, learn to think like him. Think of your sufferings as a weaning from that old sinful habit of always expecting to get your own way. Then you'll be able to live out your days free to pursue what God wants instead of being tyrannized by what you want.”
But the good news is that God used that conversation to draw a line in the sand. I began to see that I had a choice. I could stand on one side or another: abundant or anesthetized. I could surrender that old sinful habit of always expecting to get my own way. I could trade it in to live out my days free to pursue what God wants instead of agonizing with the tyranny of what I wanted.
I believe this is what growing through grief is all about for the Christian. Day by day, moment by moment, God offers abundant life. Yes, abundant pain included. And abundant grace to cope. He gently uncurls fingers clutched around the life we had planned, and he opens our hands to the wonder of the amazing days ahead of us.
Take a look at your hands. How open are your fingers today?
Lord Jesus, Help us. Please. Help us think like you do, and open our hands to the abundant life you have waiting for us to begin. Amen

Thursday, February 14, 2013

A Valentines Day Bouquet for You

A Reminder of God's Valentine

Although my love story with George was interrupted by tragedy --- know that our love relationship with God will never be interrupted. Sometimes our love stories are temporary or vulnerable, but a love relationship with God is indestructable. God's Word is a love letter and it tells us of an amazing romance. God's love is an extraordinary love. Through Jesus, God's Son, they set the pattern for "True Love!"

"I have loved you with an everlasting love." Jeremiah 31:3 

 Last year I went to Hobby Lobby, bought red roses, heart picks, etc., and arranged them in my Mikasa vase. Now I will enjoy them every year. - A reminder of God's Valentine.

A Reminder of God's Valentine - Although my love story with George was interrupted by tragedy - know that our love relationship with God will never be interrupted. Sometimes our love stories are temporary or vulnerable, but a love relationship with God is indestructable. God's Word is a love letter and it tells us of an amazing romance. God's love is an extraordinary love. Through Jesus, God's Son, they set the pattern for "True Love!" "I have loved you with an everlasting love." Jeremiah 31:3 - Last year I went to Hobby Lobby, bought red roses, heart picks, etc., stuck them in my Mikasa vase. Now I will enjoy them every year. - A reminder of God's Valentine.
Photo by Phyllis Vavold
Please visit Phyllis's website--- find out more about her and the amazing story of survival in her book Grace For The Raging Storm. I highly recommend it! 

Thursday, February 7, 2013

What If Your Life Was A Novel?

Have you ever heard someone say, "I could write a book!" when they're talking about their life? Or maybe you're that person? Have you ever thought of your life as a novel full of new chapters? I'm sure some of you could have more than just one book--- your life would be a whole series!

How many books will the story of your life fill? I smile as I ask you that, but God knows. He's been writing the story of your life before you were even born. 

You saw me before I was born.
Every day of my life was recorded in your book.
Every moment was laid out
before a single day had passed.
Psalm 139:16 - New Living Translation (NLT)

Whether you're living one book or many, be sure of this---a sequel is coming!
This poem gives much food for thought today and helps us put the picture frame of eternity around our life today.

This world is not conclusion;
A sequel stands beyond,
Invisible, as music,
But positive, as sound.
It beckons and it baffles;
Philosophies don’t know,
And through a riddle, at the last,
Sagacity must go.
To guess it puzzles scholars;
To gain it, men have shown
Contempt of generations,
And crucifixion known. 

                                                                                                -Enily Dickinson (1830-1886)
Copy your favorite line into the comment box below and bring it to mind often today.

P.S. "Happy Birthday" wishes to my mom today!

Thursday, January 31, 2013

A Widow's Treasures

I address "reframing our perspective" every Thursday, but I want to make it clear that such a process doesn't happen overnight or only on Thursdays. Ideally, each post you read on Thursday will be one of those "a-ha!" moments. But, widow brain usually doesn't work like that. Sometimes it's hard to think and concentrate; sometimes it's like there's fog to cut through.

So don't stress out. Some of these posts will connect with you; some won't. Yet. Don't give up.

Read them anyway as they will always give you food for thought. Eventually some things will begin to make sense.

You have some treasures, don't you? Most people do: maybe their bank account, expensive jewelry, SHOES, CHOCOLATE . . . or stuff like photographs, family, memories, home . . .

If you grabbed a pen and paper, what would be on your personal list of "treasures?" Think of things you emotionally respond to and want to hug---babies, precious people, pets, things . . .  many widows would put their late husband on their list. Even if there were days in the past when he was definitely not a treasure, overall we sure do miss him now.  

I once heard a widow say, "My heart's in heaven now . . ." and as I considered her words, I was reminded of what Jesus said:
"for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." Matthew 6:21 (NASB)

Is your heart in heaven now too?

There's no better place for it to heal.