Showing posts with label R - Roadmap through Grief Overview. Show all posts
Showing posts with label R - Roadmap through Grief Overview. Show all posts

Saturday, January 12, 2013

Rest in the Lord

Make 2013 the year to turn GO-ing through grief to GROW-ing through grief by following this blog and implementing R Roadmap.

Grief is exhausting! And then you'd think you could sleep, but many widows struggle with either not being able to fall asleep, or with waking up too early. Aside from physical sleep, though, is the unrelenting weight and drive of adjusting to widowhood. I've always used Saturdays on this blog as a reminder to set aside time during the weekend for rest. I don't necesarily mean take a nap, but rather---rest in whatever form is most renewing to you. What benefits you most? Listening to music, spending time with friends, singing, taking a walk, relaxation breathing exercises, prayer, or simply practicing the fine art of doing nothing? Don't forget the necessity of feeding your soul by attending church and hearing the teaching of God's Word. Carve out time to rest each weekend. Invite God into all of daily life and learn to rest in Him for the greatest benefit and growth.

This week I've laid out how this blog will help you locate where you are in your grief journey and pinpoint progress you can make. Throughout this year we'll integrate the variety of these helpful steps to the format of this blog. This won't be another load on your "to-do" list, though. Simply look at R Roadmap when you wonder things like---
  • What's next? 
  • How long will this go on?
  • What can I do to change things and be happy again?
What does God have in store for you this year?
Each step you take will bring you a little closer to God's plans for your benefit and well-being. Together we'll learn to trust Him again.
For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11 (NASB)
A final re-cap of R Roadmap through grief:
Mondays: READ, listen, watch and learn about grief.
Tuesdays: RETELL your own story.
Wednesdays: Find a ROLEMODEL.
Thursdays: REFRAME your perspective.
Fridays: REBUILD your life.
Saturdays: REST in the Lord.

See you on Monday!
ferree

Friday, January 11, 2013

Rebuilding Your Life

Make 2013 the year to turn GO-ing through grief to GROW-ing through grief by following this blog and implementing R Roadmap.

I'm designing each day of the week to help you locate where you are in your grief journey and pinpoint a step you can take. So far I've described Mondays - Thursdays, and if you haven't already, just scroll down through the previous days this week to read the summaries.

Mondays: READ, listen, watch and learn about grief.
Tuesdays: RETELL your own story.
Wednesdays: Find a ROLEMODEL.
Thursdays: REFRAME your perspective.

On Fridays we'll look at practical ways to REBUILD your life.

Widowhood can affect a woman's life in every way possible---physically through stress, involuntary celibacy, insomnia, weight loss/weight gain, sometimes clinical depression, and lowered immunity. Single parenting is a huge challenge. And the emotional, spiritual, and financial effects require due diligence when she often feels very overwhelmed. Step by step we'll talk about all these different aspects and resources that are available. Don't expect to rebuild overnight, but just knowing that you now have the freedom to rebuild your life and move into the next chapter is a step in the right direction.

Check back with me tomorrow and I'll mention how you can use Saturdays to carve some margins in your weekend and optimize essential REST in the Lord. ferree

Thursday, January 10, 2013

Reframe Our Perspective

This is the year to change GO-ing through grief to GROW-ing through grief by following this blog and implementing R Roadmap.

This year, each day of the week will help you locate where you are in your grief journey and pinpoint a helpful step you can take.

I've already summarized Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays.
Mondays: READ, listen, watch and learn about grief.
Tuesdays: RETELL your own story.
Wednesdays: Find a ROLEMODEL.

We'll use Thursdays to REFRAME our perspective.

So many struggles begin in the mind and attitude, affecting our choices. God's truth is what can set us free and help us find joy. These posts will help us see God's way of looking at life. This is an up and down part of the path as our emotions vs. faith can be such a roller-coaster but making the right choices in our thinking is a great help. If we continually re-allign our focus to God's truth it will get easier.

Tomorrow I'll give you a quick summary of what to expect for Fridays: REBUILD your life.
Until then, be sure to explore this blog and become familiar with its many resources and features.
ferree

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Find A Rolemodel

This is the year to turn GO-ing through grief to GROW-ing through grief by following this blog and implementing R Roadmap.

This year each day of the week will help you locate where you are in your grief journey and pinpoint a step you can take.

So far we've summed up what Mondays and Tuesdays will hold.
Mondays: READ, listen, watch and learn about grief.
Tuesdays: RETELL your own story.

On Wednesdays this year I'll help you Find a ROLEMODEL.

You've probably already been looking for a rolemodel, whether you realize it or not. We all need to see how others navigate this huge change in life called widowhood. Older widows often find a welcoming group of rolemodels in their church. Young widows may find they are the only one in their situation! But as Ruth in the Bible had Naomi, and Naomi had Ruth, it's very important to find at least one widow to emulate. She might be someone from your family---a grandma, aunt, mother, sister; someone from church; someone from a support group; a Bible character, historical figure or author or speaker of today! God has placed us here for each other and help is on the way! When we see how others have survived we learn what to do and what mistakes to avoid.

So, Wednesdays will continue to feature widows stories and interviews and I hope you'll choose at least one of these special women to use as your own guide through widowhood.

Tomorrow we'll look at Reframing Our Perspective. This is looking at life from God's point of view, and it's essential to surviving grief and then thriving in the next chapter of your life.
ferree

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Retelling Your Story

This week we're looking at how to make 2013 the year to turn GO-ing through grief to GROW-ing through grief by following this blog and implementing R Roadmap.

This year I'm setting up the blog so that each day of the week will help you locate where you are in your grief journey and pinpoint a step you can take.

Yesterday I gave a brief summary of what Mondays will hold:
Mondays: READ, listen, watch and learn about grief.

Today we'll look at Tuesdays: RETELL your own story.

Retelling helps grieving people grasp the reality of the the death of a loved one. But its not just collaring everyone you meet. There are artforms you can use, or journaling. There are times when it's not appropriate, even detrimental, to tell your story. We'll talk about support groups, finding a good counsellor, and comforting others. You'll discover how retelling your story can bring some healing,  open some doors and ultimately help you say good-bye.

Tomorrow we'll look at finding a ROLEMODEL. Although our husband is gone, God did not put us here to go through life alone. He has key people to help you along this road. Please check back tomorrow to see how we will discover some surprising saints! 
ferree

Monday, January 7, 2013

Change Going Through Grief to Growing Through Grief

Make 2013 the year to turn GO-ing through grief to GROW-ing through grief by following this blog and implementing R Roadmap.

This year each day of the week will help you locate where you are in your grief journey and pinpoint a step you can take.

Mondays: READ, listen, watch and learn about grief.
Tuesdays: RETELL your own story.
Wednesdays: Find a ROLEMODEL.
Thursdays: REFRAME your perspective.
Fridays: REBUILD your life.
Saturdays: REST in the Lord.

Check in each day this week to see how these simple tasks can move you forward through grief.
If only the road through grief had some
shortcuts!
On Mondays you'll benefit from discovering important things about widowhood. Widowhood is a stage in life that's more traumatic than puberty or menopause! Just as puberty and menopause signal a huge transition for our hormones, widowhood can affect a woman physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially! On Mondays we'll talk about these changes, alert you to them and provide some tips and resources for dealing with them.

Tomorrow is Tuesday so I'll introduce you to Retelling your story and the variety of ways that's done.
Until then, be sure to explore this blog and become familiar with its many resources and features.
ferree