Showing posts with label Prayers for Widows. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Prayers for Widows. Show all posts

Monday, June 10, 2019

A Prayer for Boys Without Fathers on Father's Day

Dear Lord,

I'm not saying that daughters are easier to raise, but there's a certain heartache when I think about boys without fathers. There are way too many of them, for a variety of reasons, but today I bring the widows' sons to you, my own included, even though he's an adult now and I'm remarried.

Help me cling to you, Lord. To put my hope in you for your mercy and grace on our sons. Whether they turn to you and draw close to you as their father God, or whether they turn to the world as prodigals, help us turn our burdens for them over to you, in full faith of your love and faithfulness.


Fritz Zuber Buhler (1822-1896)
Let us know you as the one who promised, "my yoke is easy and my burden is light" (Matthew 11:30)
Let us realize that you are aware of their situation and unwilling that any should perish. Quicken the inner man of our sons to make them alive in Christ. Draw them to yourself, strengthen them to desire you and to choose to obey you.
Help us as mothers to walk in obedience to you, to model a growing love for you and a desire to serve you with delight rather than a list of demands. Help us know the difference between your commands which bring life, and Pharisee-like demands which drain life.

Lord, too often the men who would be so helpful to our boys are either too blind or too busy to see how our sons need them. It hurts to see our sons so neglected by the church and our families. We ask, we suggest, and then give up; they don't understand what a painful effort it is to ask. Nor how discouraging it is when promises and good intentions aren't kept. We do notice, we are hurt, and our sons are very wounded by the disappointment and added grief of neglect and disinterest. Strengthen us and move on our behalf. If they still don't budge, help us forgive them, and cause your Holy Spirit to fill in this gap for our sons.

Lord, you are my defender! You are a father to the fatherless! You daily bear my burdens! Give me faith to believe those promises!

I cover this in Jesus name,
Amen


A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows,
is God in his holy dwelling.
Praise be to the Lord, to God our Savior,
who daily bears our burdens
Psalm 68:5, 19 (NIV)

Monday, December 24, 2018

A Christmas Prayer for You

Behold, the virgin shall be with child and shall bear a Son, and they shall call His name Immanuel, which translated means, God with us.
Matthew 1:23 (NASB)
Dear God,
You've embedded our seasons and calendars with remembrances of you. The stars shine brighter in these long nights of December, the earth demonstrates your widom as it gives way to seasons of rest and replenishment. Weather fronts swirl both snow and balm around our globe, the moon pulls tides in and out, and planets follow their courses in a cycle of centuries.
Nations rise against nations, republics succeed and fail; houses are built, lovers are loved, babies are born-- some grow old--some do not... But whether only five years old or ninety-five, all eventually die. Yet against this massive and brutal canvas of nature and man your prophets and Scripture lay this claim:

Immanuel: You. Are. With. Us.
You are with the widow too. Such knowledge is too wondrous! We ask, as Mary asked the angel, "How can this be?"
How is it that the Creator of the universe--each galaxy, star, solar system, planet, continent, nation, people group, family, and person-- how is it that you come to us as Immanuel?
Renew and revive our sense of your presence in the cold beauty and long nights of December and grief. For when we know you are with us, we know we can make it through. When our own strength and hope are gone, "God with us," is all that matters.
When our Creator reaches through all of his creation to touch our life and enter our world, we begin to live again.
Grant us this peace and life through your presence this Christmas, Immanuel.
Amen

Wishing you a sacred and precious Christmas through the touch of Jesus Christ, ❤ferree

Monday, June 18, 2018

C.A.S.T. prayer method

If you've been around church world for a while you might be familiar with the A.C.T.S. method for prayer. I've been in a couple of prayer groups that used it. It's a handy tool for keeping group prayer on point. It incorporates worship, confession and thanksgiving instead of just the usual "bless or help so and so..." God wants us to bring our requests to him, of course, but this ACTS tool reminds us of who God is, and who we really are. It can really enrich a group prayer time. You basically have everyone who wants to pray hold to this outline:
  • A - adoration: open your prayer time by giving everyone opportunity to speak a prayer of adoration and worship to God. Ideally you've got 6 - 10 people in your group and this takes 5 - 10 minutes.
  • C - confession: in a group we don't need to air all of our dirty laundry so this is best done by having the group leader say "We'll now take 2 or 3 minutes of silent prayer to privately confess our personal sins to the Lord." When the time is up the leader proceeds to the next step.
  • T - thanksgiving: Everyone's prayers are full of thankfulness and praise for various gifts and workings of God during the past and current circumstances, and/or appreciation for God's character and truth.
  • S - supplication: praying our requests (the bless or help so and so's) to God and asking for His will to be done. 
While I think it's good for group prayer, I've never been comfortable with it on my own. Psalms 66:18 says, "If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened." In other words, God chooses to not listen to the prayers of Christians who harbor sin rather than confess it! I realized I needed to put CONFESSION at the top of my prayer time.

I played around with the ACTS acronym and rearranged the letters putting Confession first and ended up with: CATS. LOL, that  wasn't going to work! Just not biblical, not reverent, and not a word that would help me focus on God Almighty! A cat would probably like it though.

But what about this one? C.A.S.T.
Ah... that's good!

  • C - Confession
  • A - Adoration - something I can express so much better with a clean heart!
  • S - Supplication - the real reason I pray anyway - because I need a lot of God's help, intervention and miracles in my life!
  • T - Thanksgiving - what a wonderful way to close my prayer time - by thanking God for what he's already done, plus for what he will do in the needs  and situations I just "cast" before him.
CAST all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. I Peter 5:7

CAST your cares on the Lord
and he will sustain you;
he will never let the righteous fall.
Psalm 55:22

Let's hurry and go CAST! God cares, he will sustain, and he will never let the righteous fall! 

Friday, March 23, 2018

The Blahs, Blues, Bummers

Yes, I get them too. Especially after some really good but really busy spiritual times like the past two weeks have been for me.

Here are some struggles I wrote in my little notebook last Friday:
ENVY - wishing my life was "normal" like other people's....people who I think happily live in their own little world and have fun with family and grandkids popping in all week. When I get like this I can't even walk through the baby aisles at Walmart. sigh.
DREAD - Living here in SC is like a big speed bump in my life. It's so far from our family that moving again seems inevitable. But it's a no-win situation: hard to stay, hard to move. I fear both with the loneliness and hard work of trying to fit in somewhere else.
JOY - It's like I don't have room for it. Heavy other things snuff it out.

I knew I had to pray about this junk. I didn't really know where to start though (plus I just didn't want to). I often felt this way during widowhood. Blah. Let's face it: prayer can be hard work for those of us who don't get spiritual goosebumps or have times when we don't feel "special" to God. It's also hard work when we're numb with the pain of loss (physical, emotional, and spiritual loss--pick your poison), when we've been disappointed, when expectations have failed, when we're running on fumes... when life just sucks.

Two things I learned from widowhood kicked in though. 1). Put my "big girl panties" on, just do it--pray! and 2). Use somebody else's prayers. (Yes! It's OK to copy-cat pray. That's why the Psalms are in the Bible).

Here's page two from my notebook. (I took notes while I prayed through Psalm 30).
What God wants to do for me:
  • to lift me out of the depths
  • to not let my enemies gloat (I only have one human enemy that I know of, but I have many spiritual enemies which I don't see--God is against them! yay!)
  • to heal me
  • to bring me up from the grave
  • to spare me from going down
What God wants me to do: to sing and praise his name (hmm, how about if I just hum along for now?)
He also wants to do the following:
  • to favor me for a lifetime
  • for me to experience rejoicing
  • for me to place my confidence in seeing his face, not in my feelings of success and security (v. 6)
  • for me to call to him for mercy
  • for my goals to be to praise him and proclaim his faithfulness
  • for me to ask. Just ask! Is that so hard? (v. 10)
  • he wants to turn my wailing to dancing, and clothe me with joy and a heart that continually sings thanks 
I'm honest enough to tell you that I did not immediately get up from prayer and walk away with a light heart and dancing feet---but a few hours passed and so did most of the blahs, blues and bummers. Once again, God's Word met my need. Try it--take Psalm 30 and list what God wants to do for you. I'd love to see your notes like I've shared mine with you. You're His favorite too. 

Wednesday, August 9, 2017

A Prayer for Anxiety Vs. Relief

Wow, my email had so many responses to Anxiety Vs. Relief! Before I posted it and offered to pray specifically for the requests, I intended to also personally write back to each person too; I truly want to reach out. But I apologize that this time there are too many for me to write back to. I have prayed though, and I will continue praying for those I hear from by name.

Let's pray together right now, OK? Just take a few moments and join me. Anxiety and Relief are two words that resonated with widows' experiences on Monday, and we all need to join together and support each other in prayer. Let's pray ...

Dear Heavenly Father,

I'm just going to use one word, one heart cry--- Help! Lord, save! like Peter cried as he started to go under the waves, so too I cry out for my widow friends. I remember that deep, yearning loneliness, the echoes of an empty house, wondering why You took my husband instead of me, and how could I go on?

Yet there are piles of other things my friends face too: starting over with nothing but debt, fear of the future, and dread of the present day. Some have been cheated or robbed! And most feel abandoned and have a hard time really trusting You, if I were to be blunt. 

And I can say honest things; I can be blunt, for You know my heart and every word I will speak. Better yet, You know each situation and You've seen their hurt and pain. It comes as no surprise to You. 

There's a soft layer of comfort in that---in knowing You are not surprised. You are our rock, fortress, strong tower, and hiding place. So we run to you for refuge, mercy, protection. Save! Yes, save us! Protect my friends from the fiery darts of loneliness, emptiness, purposelessness, and pity. Renew and restore their spirits. Revive them with your love and faithfulness.

I ask these things because Jesus gave His life for us, so truly there is no good thing You will hold back from us in Your perfect time. Amen, from Your daughter, Ferree

P.S. Lord, could you send some good friends alongside each of them too? 

Dear ones, if you want to add a line of prayer to this, please click the comment line and type something in. Click "Anonymous" for the easiest identity choice if you'd like. I know your prayers will mean a lot to everyone, and the Lord will bless because of them.
ferree

Monday, April 3, 2017

A Prayer for Widows Who Want to Be Remarried


Lord God,
     I pray today for widows who want to remarry---for those who yearn once again for the companionship, touch and presence of a husband's love.
     May they use this desire to call upon You for refuge and strength. May they be thankfully open and honest before You, expressing all their dreams, fears, and daily struggles. May they receive help in time of need. May You open their eyes to the sources of help You've already placed around them.
     And Lord, as the widow Naomi prayed for Ruth and Orpah, I pray for each of these widows today: 
May the Lord show kindness to you, as you have shown to others. May the Lord grant that each of you will find rest in the home of another husband.
     As they struggle moment by moment to trust You again, may they each "be richly rewarded by the Lord, under whose wings they have come to take refuge," as Ruth did.
     In this process, Lord, gently lead them, reveal Yourself and Your will, and help them be restored and growing in You. Grant them contentment!
     Protect and watch over these beloved ones, Lord, and draw them close to You.
     In Jesus' Name,
     Amen

A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. In my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is---and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.  I Corinthians 7:8

May you rest in the Lord this week,
♥ ferree

Sunday, January 1, 2017

A Prayer for Widows in the New Year

A Prayer for Widows Facing a New Year

What a privilege to bring to our God the smallest to largest of our heart's desires. I hope this prayer helps you look ahead without dread to 2017, and opens our eyes to the life of adventure and purpose God has in store for each of us.

Psalm 23 is a classic funeral passage, but we can carry it beyond the cemetery. Discover the rich promise it holds for the year ahead. Put Psalm 23 in your own words and make it your own as I've done here. I'd love to see your version so feel free to share it in the comments if you'd like. As you hold God's word in your heart He will hold you in His. I pray that you may see the abundant blessings of God in 2017.  ♥ ferree

Dear Lord,

1. Please be my shepherd in this year ahead. 
You know my needs, so help me learn to follow where you lead. 
With you as my shepherd I'll not be in want.

2. You'll make me lie down in green pastures and lead me beside quiet waters.
(Oh, I do hate to sit still, though! Help me to recognize your plan and cooperate with your program, Lord! I see where it says that you'll make me lie down . . . how much easier if I'd only follow your lead!)

3. You'll restore my soul. (How I need that!)
You'll guide me in righteous pathways.

4. Even though I walk through the valley of death,
there's no reason to fear for you are with me.
Your protection and discipline guard me and bring me comfort.
Even when surrounded by enemies who want to steal my peace,

5. you prepare a table full of all that I need.
Your anointing heals me.
My life overflows with your abundance. (Really? Yes! But all I see is loss right now, please help me!)

6. Surely goodness and love will follow me,
and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.
Thank you Lord, for your presence and for the place you've prepared for me.

Amen

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Prayer for Widows Facing a New Year

This is the last of 12 prayers I've composed for widows this year. If you'd like to see them all together, click on the Prayers for Widows label in the sidebar. What a privilege to bring to our God the smallest to largest of our heart's desires. I hope this prayer helps you look ahead without dread to 2013, and opens up eyes to the life of adventure and purpose God has in store for each of us.
ferree


Psalm 23 is a classic funeral passage. Why not carry it with you beyond the cemetary? Discover the rich promise it holds for the year ahead. Take Psalm 23 and make it your own as I've done here.

Dear Lord,
Be my shepherd in this year ahead. You know my needs, so help me learn to follow where you lead. With you as my shepherd I'll not be in want.
You'll make me lie down in green pastures and lead me beside quiet waters.
(Oh, I do hate to sit still, though!
Please help me to recognize your plan and cooperate with your program, Lord!
I see where it says that you'll make me lie down . . . how much easier if I'd only follow your lead!)
You'll restore my soul (How I need that!)
You'll guide me in righteous pathways.
Even though I've walked through the valley of death,
there's no reason to fear evil for you are with me.
Your protection and discipline guard me and bring me comfort.
Even when surrounded by enemies who want to steal my peace,
you prepare a table full of all that I need.
You annointing heals me.
My life overflows with your abundance.
Surely goodness and love will follow me,
and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.
Thank you Lord, for your presence and for the place you've prepared for me.
Amen

Saturday, December 15, 2012

A Prayer for Widows at Christmas

Matthew 1:23 (NASB)

Behold, the virgin shall be with child and shall bear a Son, and they shall call His name Immanuel,” which translated means, “God with us.”
 
Dear God,
You've embedded our seasons and calendars with remembrances of you. The stars shine brighter in these long nights of December, the earth demonstrates your widom as it gives way to seasons of rest and replenishment. Weather fronts swirl both snow and balm around our globe, the moon pulls tides in and out, and planets follow their courses in a cycle of centuries.
Nations rise against nations, republics succeed and fail; houses are built, lovers are loved, babies are born-- some grow old--not all, as we mourn the massacre of little ones yesterday. But whether only five years old or ninety-five, all eventually die. Yet against this massive and brutal canvas of nature and man your prophets and Scripture lay this claim: 
Immanuel: You. Are. With. Us.
You are with the widow too. Such knowledge is too wondrous! We ask, as Mary asked the angel, "How can this be?"
How is it that the Creator of the universe--each galaxy, star, solar system, planet, continent, nation, people group, family, and person-- how is it that you come to us as Immanuel? How is it that you are with us?
Renew and revive our sense of your presence in the cold beauty and long nights of December and grief. For when we know you are with us, we know we can make it through. When our own strength and hope are gone, "God with us," is all that matters.
When our Creator reaches through all of his creation to touch our life and enter our world, we begin to live again.
Grant us this peace and life through your presence this Christmas, Immanuel.
Amen

ferree
Thank you for visiting the WCP this weekend. I feel like a thick blanket of horror and grief covers our nation over yesterday's massacre. It should. It's a time to weep with those who weep. Anything else seems frivolous. And this killing, added to your own loss, might seem like too much to bear.
 
If so, just breathe. That's your assignment for today. This darkness will eventually be spent, and joy will dawn again--- someday. In the meantime, get up and do what needs to be done today. Wash the dishes, take a walk, do the laundry, wrap the presents . . .
 
On Monday we'll look at how we can help others who are grieving even if we're not "over it" ourselves. Yes, grieving people can help other grieving people. The need is great. I do not believe the world will end on Dec. 21. What I do believe is that "There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal . . . (2 Timothy 3) Since that sounds like the daily news, perhaps we are living in the last days. Whether we are or not though, we are here. And as long as we have breath, God has us here for a reason. So please check back on Monday to see how we can help others in these days.

Saturday, October 20, 2012

A Prayer for Widows Who Are Under Tremendous Stress

Dear Lord,

All widows are under stress; figuring out a new direction in life, making major decisions without one's mate, raising children alone, dealing with grief . . . those things alone could make for an emotional earthquake that spikes the "Richter scale" of stress to a 10!

But when things like car repairs, wildfires, unemployment, going bankrupt, tornados, leaky roofs, rebellious children, threatening phone calls, having a baby, robbery, and even cancer are added to that 10---those are the widows I'm praying for today. These things happen; the world crashes in, and Your widows aren't exempt!

Yet, You are with us. Your Word is a light to our path. Your hand will guide and support us, invisibly holding us, pressing us to this direction or that, blocking us from far more treacherous trails. Your silence makes us yearn to see Your plan; the pressure sharpens our pain so we seek Your intervention; the sickness drives us to beg Your healing.

Will You hear? Will You listen? Will You charge in on Your white horse as our deliverer?

Lord, I have read the last chapter. You answer "Yes" to these questions! You are with us! You will win! How I praise You for the victory and the hope! Thank You for the promises--- joy does come in the morning, those who mourn shall be comforted. Thank You for the freedom that we can let our requests be known, and that we may ask so we will receive.

So, Lord Jesus, I bring these women under tremendous challenges and stressors to You today. I ask that You grant them knowledge of Your presence; may they know Your guidance and intervention in their lives. Show them the way to go. Grant peace to their anxieties, stillness to the inner clawing, and Holy Spirit calm to their soul. Most of all give them wisdom to place their faith in You, casting all their cares upon You. May they experience Your care, firsthand, in this stressful quake.    

By Your name, and for Your sake, Lord, Amen.

Friday, October 5, 2012

A Prayer for Widows: For Widows Ministry Leaders

There are many women who God has raised up to minister to widows---and you might be one of them! Your coming alongside another widow, your example of survival, your ability to keep on keeping on, your pursuit of peace in the midst of pain are unsung but immensely powerful pictures of hope. Your example can breathe life into a new widow and help her get out of bed in the morning and take. that. one. next. step.

Others have felt impelled to start small groups for widows or write blogs (see my BlogList!) Some will gather a few widows together for lunch after church tomorrow, some will organize conferences, seminars, workshops, or facilitate a GriefShare group. Some will write books and encourage through public speaking. And I thank God for those who serve behind the scenes on our private Facebook support groups for widows called Lifeboats!

So today I pray for widows in ministry. For Miriam, Joyce, Ginny, CarolMarie, Elaine, Jennifer, Shearon, Carrie, Barb, Candy, Gracia, Phyllis, Carol, Linda, Ruth, Kathy, Joann, Cindy, Andrea, Christina and so many others . . . even you.

Heavenly Father,

You have granted us freedom and confidence to approach Your throne in prayer. So I kneel before You and pray that out of Your glorious riches You would strengthen each widow who ministers to widows.

Give her power and hope to continue through your Spirit in her inner being. Continue to assure her of Your indwelling in her. Help her hold steadfastly to You and to Your promises. I pray that she will be rooted and established in Your love. That she may have power to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ. I pray she will know and experience this love that surpasses all knowledge. I pray she may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God!

Lord, You are able to do far more than we could ever ask or imagine. So according to your power that is at work within, may You bring glory to her life and ministry, to her church and sphere of influence, and to the generations to come so that Jesus Christ will be lifted up and praised by all for ever and ever.

In His name and by His blood, Amen!

ferree

The prayer today is based upon many of the words in Ephesians 3:14-21.


Saturday, September 1, 2012

A Prayer for All Widows

by Kelly Creason, used with permission
Kelly came upon this field of wild daisies the other day. Aren't they beautiful? She was just driving along and there they were! I love to find surprising scenery like this. It's one of the joys of travelling.

I'm looking forward to some travels in the next several weeks. One of the highlights will be meeting some of you! I know widows rarely feel fresh as a daisy like those in the picture. But the Lord sees them with worth far more than the lilies (and daisies) of the field. The prayer below will be on my heart for each of you while I'm driving. I've been devoting myself to the Psalms, the book of Ruth, and Philippians this year, so the following prayer rises from each of them, and especially from Philippians 1:9-11.

A Prayer for All Widows

Dear God,

When I bring widows to you in prayer, I know that you hold them close to your heart and are intimately acquainted with all their ways. Would you please help them to know and experience that truth, too? Help each widow to know that you have numbered her days. Death comes as no suprise to you. You knew she would be widowed---and you also know this is not the end of her story. Help her to see that too.

Fill her with hope and help her look forward to the day when she will once again see the good work you began in her. Help her believe that you will faithfully complete her and the work you are doing in her life. It's not over yet.

I pray that her love will rise from the ashes of loss and begin to abound more and more in knowledge, spiritual depth and insight. That she'll be able to discern what is best. In the midst of this sad and confusing time keep her pure and blameless. Fill her with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ her Lord and Savior. May she grow in you to the glory and praise of God. May she truly live with passion and purpose, showing the world that to live is Christ and to die is gain.

Show her your kindness and rest, Lord. Open fields of opportunity for her. Surprise her with your joy, peace, mercy, generous provision and lavish grace.

May she stand on tiptoe to watch for your work in her life and eagerly look forward to the day of your return. Come quickly, Lord Jesus!

In Your name, for Your sake, and by Your Word,
Amen

Saturday, July 28, 2012

A Prayer for Widows With Sons

Dear Lord,

I'm not saying that daughters are easier to raise, but there's a certain heartache when I think about boys without fathers. There are way too many of them, for a variety of reasons, but today I bring the widows' sons to you, my own included, even though he's an adult now.

Help me cling to you, Lord. To put my hope in you for your mercy and grace on our sons. Whether they turn to you and draw close to you as their father God, or whether they are weak and turn  to the world as prodigals, help us turn our burdens for them over to you, in full faith of your love and faithfulness.


Fritz Zuber Buhler (1822-1896)
Let us know you as the one who promised, "my yoke is easy and my burden is light" (Matthew 11:30) Let us realize that you are aware of their situation and unwilling that any should perish. Quicken the inner man of our sons to make them alive in Christ. Draw them to yourself, strengthen them to desire you and to choose to obey you.
Help us as mothers to walk in obedience to you, to model a growing love for you and a desire to serve you with delight rather than a list of demands. Help us know the difference between your commands which bring life, and Pharisee-like demands which drain life.

Lord, too often the men who would be so helpful to our boys are either too blind or too busy to see how our sons need them. It hurts to see our sons so neglected by the church and our families. We ask, we suggest, and then give up; they don't understand what a painful effort it is to ask. Nor how discouraging it is when promises and good intentions aren't kept. We do notice, we are hurt, and our sons are very wounded by the disappointment and added grief of neglect and disinterest. Strengthen us and move on our behalf. If they still don't budge, help us forgive them, and cause your Holy Spirit to fill in this gap for our sons.

Lord, you are my defender! You are a father to the fatherless! You daily bear my burdens! Give me faith to believe those promises!

I cover this in Jesus name,
Amen

A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows,
    is God in his holy dwelling.
Praise be to the Lord, to God our Savior,
    who daily bears our burdens
Psalm 68:5, 19 (NIV)

Saturday, June 23, 2012

A Prayer for Widows Who Are Lonely

Dear Heavenly Father,

There are days when we feel suffocated and overwhelmed by loneliness. It's like a heavy, dark blanket pressed to the face and we're powerless to pull it away. It drains our strength and hope; its like arthritis of the soul---it just won't go away. How can we live like this? How can we go on when our soulmate--the one person we can't live without, the one who was a part of us, who completed our sentences, who filled our thoughts, pleasured our existence, and gave purpose to our days? How can we go on when he's gone?

Life has blown up and been scattered to the wind. We are a solitary speck in a lonely wasteland, a wandering soul in a dry, empty desert . . . Amen.

I am like a desert owl, like an owl among the ruins.
I lie awake;
I have become like a bird alone on a roof.
Psalm 102:6,7

This prayer could be labelled a "lament," as Psalm 102 and many other prayers and psalms in the Bible are catagorized. Its a comfort to me to know that we can be this honest with God. He knows the loneliness and pain we feel. He understands and accepts us; if we've confessed our sins He hears our prayers even though we wonder about that at times.


Saturday, May 26, 2012

A Prayer for Widows With Teens

In these days brimming with proms, graduations, open houses, college applications and summer job hunting, widows with teens, and teens without dads, sometimes put up a fragile front. Please be sensitive to them---yes, they DO miss him. The world will never, ever know how much. Please pray for them.

Dear Heavenly Father,

Your Word says you will be a father to the fatherless. We come before you today in humility and neediness to ask you to fulfill your Word in the lives of fatherless teens today--for their benefit as well as the relief and benefit of their mom.

Lord, many widowed moms fall into bed each night wrung out beyond exhaustion---and then they can't sleep! Their minds overload with stress and "to do" lists as they take on the work and responsibilites of two adults, and add to that the concern for the future of their children. Please send them kindness and rest, and help them recognize your good hand of mercy and blessing.

We pray their teenagers will know your salvation. That if they have not yet received it, you will stir them through the work of your Holy Spirit and make them alive in Christ. Protect them from the blind rage and bitterness of grief. Use this time of their life to turn them to you. Help their mother to help them, and not to be so buried in her own grief that they are neglected.

Cover them, both teens and moms, with your grace; that they may begin to live again, lifted from the ashes, growing in your grace, hope and purpose.

Fill them with a love for learning from Scripture. May it be a lamp unto their feet and a light for their path during these days of new beginnings, passions and hormones. Strengthen them morally and give them each the courage to be morally pure in thought, word and walk. Grant understanding and respect --that the teens respect their mom, and that the mother understands and respects her children--and herself. Protect her from the temptations of escape and help her uphold the moral standards she desires for her family. May the Holy Spirit cut through her grief and fill her with the comfort and guidance of Scripture.

Guide them, Lord. I'm praying big on this one, far beyond the blessings I can imagine; I ask that you open doors for them that lead to wisdom, goodness, abundant joy and the spread of your kingdom. May their desire be to live according to your will. Protect them and deliver them from evil.

In Your Name we pray,
amen.

Saturday, March 24, 2012

A Prayer for Widows With Children To Raise

Dear God,
        I pray for women who have been left to raise children on their own. This is a huge responsibility and burden--when you're married and have the support of a father to share the duties. But when you're a mom alone---God, how do you expect these ladies to do all this?!
        So, Lord, this is why we must pray!
        Oh Lord, fulfill your Word to them from Psalm 68:5 and be a father to these fatherless children. Do a work in their little hearts that assures them they belong to you. Help these children come to Jesus as the little ones in the New Testament did. Protect them from worldly adults and false teachers who claim there is no God. Heal their grief, help them stay true to you, and help them be a comfort and delight to their mother.
        And for these mothers, Lord, please strengthen and protect them. Defend them, as you are declared the "defender of widows." If they are lonely, set them in the midst of families---their own family, their church family, and perhaps the family of a godly man you will send to be her new husband and new father for her children. Lord, raise up these men with the backbone and integrity to be our heroes!
        Above all else, Lord, may the widow with children to raise find her rest in you. Draw her to yourself, surround her with your lovingkindness and new mercies every morning. Fill her days with deep joy, fill her mind with your wonders, fill her heart with your peace. Collect her tears in your bottle and transform them into her treasure. Bless her with kindness and rest.
In Jesus Name,
Amen

A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families . . . Psalm 68:5,6a

Saturday, March 3, 2012

A Prayer for Widows Who Want to Remarry

This is the second in a 12-part series of prayers for widows, and concludes this two-week series on dating and remarriage.
Lord God,
     I pray today for widows who want to remarry---for those who yearn once again for the companionship, touch and presence of a husband's love.
     May they use this desire to call upon You for refuge and strength. May they be thankfully open and honest before You, expressing all their dreams, fears, and daily struggles. May they receive help in time of need. May You open their eyes to the sources of help You've already placed around them.
     And Lord, as the widow Naomi prayed for Ruth and Orpah, I pray for each of these widows today:
May the Lord show kindness to you, as you have shown to others. May the Lord grant that each of you will find rest in the home of another husband.
     As they struggle moment by moment to trust You again, may they each "be richly rewarded by the Lord, under whose wings they have come to take refuge," as Ruth did.
     In this process, Lord, gently lead them, reveal Yourself and Your will, and help them be restored and growing in You. Grant them contentment!
     Protect and watch over these beloved ones, Lord, and draw them close to You.
     In Jesus' Name,
     Amen

A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. In my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is---and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.  I Corinthians 7:8

May you rest in the Lord this weekend,
ferree

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

A Prayer for Widows With Babies & Toddlers

This is the first in a 12-part series of prayers for widows, one each month.

Lord God,
     I pray for widows with babies and young children today. I never knew of such a tragedy before, yet now I now of several, and how my heart goes out to them.
     First, I pray for these young mothers. Please strengthen them through your servants in the church, through their family and through their friends. Make these people sensitive to their needs so they don't have to ask so much. Give them eyes to see, ears to hear and a sensitive spirit in tune with the heart of a widow and her children. Burden them to pick up an extra gallon of milk and package of diapers, burden them to pray for her as they shovel the snow from her driveway, replace the brakes of her car, fill her gas tank or grocery cart.
     And, Lord, your Word says that you gently lead those who have young. (Isaiah  ) so fulfill your promise in this widow's life. Guide her to green pastures where she will find peace. Give her income and wisdom to manage it well. Give her kindness from her employer, kindness from strangers and rest from her worries.
     I also want to pray for her children. May you be a father to the fatherless. Rest your Spirit upon these little ones, that they may grow strong in their convictions and leadership. May they know your holy power and love with great certainty and honor. Give them a love for their mother, protect them from bitterness and selfishness, grant them a heart of gratitude for your generosity and goodness to them.
     Now, Lord, encourage these widows with babies and little ones. Encourage them with your presence. May they each see your fingerprints over all the circumstances of life--not only the miraculous, but also the mundane. May they sense your love and watchcare over them and their babies this very day and everyday.
     In Jesus Name,
     Amen

He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young. Isaiah 40:11 (NIV)